Pragma · Memory
AI relationship coach with memory for couples: what Pragma remembers and who sees it.
Pragma is an AI relationship coach with memory for couples. Each of you has a 15-minute session a day, by voice or chat, and the coach remembers what came up. So tonight's talk can connect to last month's argument without retelling it. You can view and clear what it remembers. Pragma is a coach, not a therapist, and does not diagnose or treat.
Get the app
Download Pragma on your phone
Free to download on iPhone and Android. Each of you gets a private 15-minute session a day, by voice or chat.
This page is for couples tired of explaining the same fight to a blank chat. It covers what the memory holds, who can see it, how it works for two and what it costs. For the coach's role in general, read what an AI relationship coach does for couples.
01 · What you get
What Pragma does as an AI relationship coach with memory
Pragma gives each partner a short guided session a day and keeps the thread between sessions. The coaching stays on communication and conflict between the two of you.
A daily session
Each of you has a 15-minute session by voice or chat. The coach asks what happened, helps you see a pattern and ends with one small thing to try.
Memories
The Journal has a Memories tab. It lists facts the coach has remembered from your sessions, each with a date. A "Clear all memories" button deletes them.
The read
The Blueprint shows your progress over time, including "the read": what your conversations keep surfacing. That is where a repeating argument shows up as a pattern.
Three coaches
You choose one of Juno, Aria and Kai, Pragma's three AI coaches, and switch any time.
Memory is useful only because the same arguments tend to come back.
02 · How it works
How an AI relationship coach with memory works for two partners
Each partner has a private account on their own phone, and the two accounts pair with a code. Memory makes privacy the first question, so here is where the line sits.
- One of you starts. Start the trial on the web. The other partner can join later.
- The other joins with a code. Your partner enters your 8-character invite code.
- Each of you talks privately. Your transcripts stay in your account, and your Memories list is yours.
What your partner sees, and what they never see
- Never shown. Your transcripts and raw messages are never shown to your partner.
- Shown. Your partner sees your completion, streak and exercise progress.
- Encrypted. Transcripts, messages and intake answers are encrypted with AES-256-GCM.
- Both perspectives. Pragma's in-app FAQ says that once paired, your coach can offer insights based on both perspectives. Individual sessions stay private.
- Yours to delete. You can clear your memories, reset session data or delete your account.
The Journal keeps your sessions for you alone, with the AI's reflection and the conversation.
Three questions to ask any AI coach about memory
- Can I see what it remembers? A list you can read is better than a hidden profile.
- Can I delete it? Look for a clear button, not only a support email.
- Can my partner see it? The answer should be no, unless you both choose to share.
03 · Between sessions
The Practice and The Blueprint
The Practice has 13 programs of 7 to 10 days, with one short task a day. Each task has a tip and a reflection. The Blueprint tracks how often you followed through, so the coach and you can see what stuck.
The Soft Startup, seven days built on the Gottman Method, suits a fight that keeps returning. Understanding Your Patterns, eight days built on attachment theory, looks at the loops you fall into.
Consistency does the quiet work here, not any single evening.
04 · The science
Built on methods couples therapists use
The coaching is built on six methods couples therapists train in. They are the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, CBT, Nonviolent Communication, attachment theory and positive psychology.
Pragma's methods page credits each framework and shows where it appears in the app. Pragma is not affiliated with or endorsed by the owners of these methods.
05 · Pricing
What an AI relationship coach with memory costs
Pragma costs $19.99 a month, $44.99 every three months or $119.99 a year, per partner. The yearly plan works out to $10.00 a month, and every plan includes every feature.
Monthly
$19.99
a month, per partner
Cancel anytime
Every 3 months
$44.99
every three months, per partner
$15.00 a month
Yearly
$119.99
a year, per partner
$10.00 a month · best value
The 7-day free trial starts on the web, with no card to begin. Each partner starts their own trial and pays for their own plan, so two yearly plans come to $239.98. You subscribe in the iOS or Android app.
For comparison, Therapy Cost Guide puts a US couples session at $150 to $300 for 60 minutes. Pragma is not a substitute for counseling when your relationship needs it.
06 · Is it for you
Is an AI relationship coach with memory right for the two of you?
Pragma fits couples who are basically okay and want continuity, not a blank chat each night.
- ✓The same argument keeps coming back.
- ✓You are tired of re-explaining your history.
- ✓You want to see and clear what an app remembers.
- ✓You see a counselor and want practice between visits.
- ✓You want 15 minutes a night, not an appointment.
- ✕Someone in the relationship is unsafe.
- ✕A mental health condition needs diagnosis or treatment.
- ✕You want your partner to read your sessions.
- ✕You want a general chatbot for any topic.
- ✕You want a clinician to lead the work.
Not sure which kind of help you need? This short check sorts it out.
Two-minute self-check
Therapist, AI coach, or both?
Tick every line that is true for the two of you.
Tick what fits, and your answer shows here.
This is a guide, not an assessment. Download the checklist as a PDF
07 · Keep reading
Guides for couples with a recurring argument
Each guide below works without the app.
The fight you both know by heart
Our post on how to stop having the same fight explains how to break the loop.
Privacy before anything else
Read how privacy works in AI couples apps before either of you signs up.
Quiet evenings, not fights
If you feel like roommates, read how to stop drifting apart.
For the whole category, see our page on the relationship coaching app for couples.
08 · Safety first
When to get more help
A coach is the wrong tool when safety or health is at stake. Pragma's privacy policy says it scans sessions for signs of crisis and points to resources. It is not an emergency service.
In the US, call or text 988 at any hour. The Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233. You can find more helplines on Pragma's crisis resources page for couples.
Honest answers
Frequently asked questions about AI relationship coaches with memory
What does an AI relationship coach with memory remember?
In Pragma, the Journal's Memories tab lists facts from your sessions, each with a date. The Blueprint shows what your conversations keep surfacing. You can clear the memories at any time.
Can my partner see what the coach remembers about me?
No. Your transcripts and raw messages are never shown to your partner. They see your completion, streak and exercise progress only.
How is this different from ChatGPT's memory?
A general chatbot remembers one person's chats and hears only that person. A coach built for two gives each partner a private session inside one shared practice. It adds short programs and a daily step.
Can we try it before paying?
Yes. Pragma has a 7-day free trial that starts on the web, with no card needed. Each partner starts their own trial.
7-day free trial
Pick up where you left off
Fifteen minutes tonight will not change everything. It gives the two of you one small step, and a coach that remembers it tomorrow. To begin, start your 7-day free trial of Pragma. No card to begin.
No download and no card. Log in, pick a coach and have your first session tonight. Your partner can join later with a code.